HOW TO ^FEEL_ACT_LOOK CONFIDENT^

"The most beautiful thing you can wear is Confidence."

--Blake Lively

Confidence is a skill that can be developed through intentional and purposeful practice. In this article, I am gonna recount three different categories of confidence. One is how you can look confident, second is how you can act confident and third is how you can feel confident.

HOW TO LOOK CONFIDENT:- 

If you find yourself feeling nervous or uncertain in a new situation, learn how to look more confident. This can ease some of your fear and help you handle the situation with grace. You must have heard this phrase "fake it 'til you make it." If you aren't a confident person, you can pretend to be and here are some tips on how you can do it: 

1.POSTURE:

The very first thing someone notices about you is your body language. The skill of appearing more confident through body language can be learned. When you are discovering how to appear more confident, always remember to start with adjusting your posture. If you have a terrible poor posture, fix it. Stand up straight hold your head up and push your shoulders back, ensure you keep your spine straight as it not only represents confidence, it also benefits in breathing. The extreme right posture is the perfect one.

2.HANDS:

The most important thing about confidence after posture is your hand gestures. When meeting someone(especially in a professional setting), your first contact is the handshake. Don't go for too strong or too loose grip, it should be firmly impactful. A quality handshake can set the entire tone of your interaction. Crossing your arms, placing your hands in your pockets and crossing your fingers sends a message of defensiveness, nervousness, shyness and lack of confidence.

3.EYES and FACE EXPRESSION:

Eye contact is the greatest indicator of confidence. Making eye contact at important moments makes you seem more confident and also shows friendliness. I suggest you use the 80/20 rule. Make 80% of eye contact while you are having a conversation and allow your eyes to focus on something else the other 20%. Avoiding eye contact communicates a lack of confidence, openness, and trust. Secondly, happy people are perceived as more confident and relaxed, so putting a smile on your face is a quick and easy way to look confident.

4.LOWER BODY and VOICE:

Close body language represents defensiveness and a lack of confidence. So make sure next time you don't stand with your feet too close together. Use an open, wide stance with your feet in line with your shoulders pointing outwards, this ultimately exudes confidence. The next thing is your voice. The tone and inflection of your voice are also important. Make sure you are loud enough while having an interaction with others. Don't speak too fast and too slow And don't stammer.

5.DONT's:

Stop fidgeting(make small movements especially of hands and feet, through nervousness or impatience), don't slouch( don't stand, move or sit in a lazy, drooping way), stop frequently touching your neck or face, stop chewing teeth, don't wring your hands as it shows nervousness and lack of preparation. Don't turn your back on someone as it sends the message that you don't care about them and show rudeness.

HOW TO ACT CONFIDENT:-

"Confidence is the habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have."  You can achieve this just by making some changes to how to conduct yourself and here are some tips on how you can do it: 

a).SPACING RULE:

Whenever you are sitting in public whether it's at a restaurant, on public transportation, at a school library or even in a classroom just layout your belongings, spread out your bag and books, open up your body and take as much as space you can. Every time you are out in public push your self to physically take up more space. This level up your confidence and self-esteem. If your mind says(what you are doing, what people would think about you, it's looking rude), trust me it's not it is a public space and you have the right to occupy as much as space you want. Just make sure if someone is really uncomfortable with that position of yours, then don't do it.

b).COMPLIMENTING:

Learn to compliment yourself for the very small things you complete or try, because you are your own source of inspiration. Since big successes are made up of many little successes. Give yourself pep talks such as: "I can accomplish my goal." " I can and I will." "I am motivated and I can do anything." "Doing things makes things happen." Say these words and you will feel motivated by giving voice to your actions. Interaction and Complimenting others also help to level up self-esteem. 
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c).WORK ON YOURSELF:

"Your life gets only better when you do. Work on yourself and the rest will follow." The reason you are not confident could be anything, maybe your speaking skills are not good or maybe you are skinny or obese. Find out that reason and work on it until you dominate it. "Action is a high road to self-confidence and self-esteem." 

 d).DO's:

Dress confidently (if you look like you are ready to get things done, you are assumed as a confident person and it creates a lot of impact). Be energetic ( being energetic is one of the qualities of a confident person. It makes you feel strong and let you express yourself the best way). Never give up, Speak for yourself, and Never say 'NO'( receive every opportunity which comes to you).

HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT:-

"Stop saying I WISH, start saying I WILL." The ultimate way with which you can have persistent confidence in yourself is to FEEL it. I use the formula of repetition and auto-suggestion(self-suggestion). If you want to believe in something you need to feed it in your subconscious mind and the only way to do it is by repeating it again and again. Your subconscious mind recognizes and acts upon only thoughts which have been well-mixed with emotion or feeling and FAITH is the strongest and most productive of the emotions. This means you need to have trust/faith in yourself for what you want to achieve. Let's take an example, Imagine you want to become RICH and SUCCESSFUL. So just repeat it again and again that" I will be rich and successful someday" or any desired statement and mix faith with it, if you don't you will experience no desirable results.  By doing this, your subconscious mind would send plans/ideas regarding your desired aim and when they appear( they will probably flash into your mind through the sixth sense i.e. infinite intelligence), put them into action immediately. Treat it with respect and act upon it as soon as you receive it. The subconscious mind is the most powerful but one should know how to sway it. It is a fact that your Subconscious mind is 30,000 times more powerful than your conscious mind, So learn the trick to sway your subconscious mind. The ability to reach and influence your subconscious mind has a price and you must PAY that price. By this I mean you need to give something in return for what you desire because "Nothing for Something" is not how this world works. It will not happen in a day but when it does, you become unstoppable. Don't care about what others would say or think about you, trust me you are not gonna see any of them in the future. 

Personal experience:- Whenever something stops me doing something or whenever I feel nervous or whenever a thought  comes to my mind that what people would think about me, what exactly I do, I fed a statement in my subconscious mind " DOES IT GONNA EFFECT YOU?" and the answer always comes "NO". It could affect me a bit now but definitely not gonna affect me in the future. So this is what I do before my showtime and yes it gives me infinite confidence to sway my so-called 'fear'. 

So these are all the tips from my side. DO share your experiences in the comment section below that how and what you do to feel confident?
source: various website & Think and Grow Rich